RANT: Got Love?

Have you ever found yourself with a freshly consumed ice cream carton or an empty wine bottle, yet you’re still not full?


You keep searching the cabinets and fridge for something sweet, but you can’t quite seem to get your fix?

You shop, eat, gamble, or Facebook your face off, but are still unsatisfied?

Chances are you haven’t got love.

Something to love, someone to love, something you love to do, self-love, a lovable (heck like-able) job, a loving home life, or someone who loves you.

If you ain’t got love, what have you got?

Now, if you ain’t got love, it is hard to magically create it.  And if you do have love, it’s easy to take it for granted.

But (without sounding too “peace love and harmony”) when you give love, you get love.

Similarly, when you spew hate, even if it’s subtle, self-hate, well, you get that right back too.  (then you’re left with an empty heart, an empty bed, empty bottles, empty pizza boxes, an empty life)

Usually when you have cravings or urges, there is something ill at ease lurking.  It may be you don’t have enough creativity in your life or feel you have no purpose. It may be you are in an unsupportive relationship (lover, family, boss, co-workers, etc).  Maybe you aren’t being loving to yourself, or just need more sleep or water.  Perhaps there’s something deeper inside you haven’t sorted out (I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy, I’m not tall, thin, strong, rich, funny, ______ enough)

Well guess what, you are _________ enough. And it’s up to you to believe that and go create a life you love.

That may mean take up the guitar that you used to play, or starting painting or cooking again, or take dance lessons, or ride your bike more, or carve out time with the people you love. Let ’em know you love ’em.

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When you do something nice for yourself or someone else it feels GOOD.  When you are kind and loving, it feels good.  Now I’m not saying a glass of wine or a salted caramel ice cream scoop aren’t fantastic every now and again (and again).

But there’s nothing as wonderfully gratifying as love.

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Madeleine Vanstory attended Duke University and began her post-graduate journey at The Elaine Clark Center working with special needs children. She went on to work as a Clinical Research Scientist running clinical trials for the CDC and developing medical devices for Welsh Allen, Abbot Labs, Roche and Johnson & Jonhson Her work included non-invansive cervical cancer detection, continuous diabetic glucose monitoring, non-harmful infant bilirubin level detection and studying Vitamin C's anti-aging effects on the skin. Madeleine attended Medical school at The Brody School of Medicine at East Carolina University and completed a residency in Family Medicine at Moses Cone Hospital in Greensboro NC. Dr. Madeleine Vanstory is a board certified Family Physician who has practiced all over the world. She has lead medical missions in Kenya and Honduras. She has participated with Operation Smile in Russia, she has patients in North Carolina, Maine, Oregon and New Zealand. Dr. Vanstory has worked the medical tents in the Marine Corps marathon in Washington DC and at the Kona Ironman World Championships. And Dr. Vanstory has marched with the Surgeon General promoting "Exercise is Medicine" at the World Congress Sports Medicine Conference. Disillusioned by the current health care system and armed with the realization that culture, nutrition and emotional well-being have a profound impact on health, Dr. Vanstory now motivates clients and patients to discover the healthiest versions of themselves through humor, counseling in her "Upgrade Your Health" Wellness Program.

6 thoughts on “RANT: Got Love?

  1. I think “love” has a lot to do with motivating us to stay healthy. Some people say that what motivated them was when they finally decided to “do it for themselves.” However, I think that is a rather poor motivating factor. How you feel about yourself can change without warning. I tell people that their motivation needs to be stronger — they need to stay healthy for their spouse. My wife and I agreed to love each other “until in death we part” and we take that very seriously — and neither of us wants to hurry things up. I try to stay healthy for her — I don’t want her to be a widow before its time.

  2. The greatest of these is love. What if we responded to life and to each situation with the blessed assurance that we are truly beloved?

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